Tag: South Asian Bay Area Community Leader

Indian Express Editor shows his homophobic side

7Feb

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Some people need to understand how saying “that’s gay” hurts a community, a community just like any other community. I was surprised when Sam Rao posted on his facebook “Superbowl – The Doritos Adv is gay. Literally this guy sucks on others fingers and then rips the other guys pants off. WTF? What demographics are they going for. Sorry doesn’t work.” this is the same Sam Rao, who told me at the Fremont Mela 2008 how much he supports the LGBT South Asians, how it’s important for them to have a presence in the community. Sam, whether you like it or not, your comments did hurt the community. It gives a green light to let others know it’s ok to gay bash.

After I told him to refrain from using the word gay in a negative context and how it shows his ignorant side. He responded…

“Get off your horse, what makes this usage negative? IMO the majority demographic has been missed – like if it was a totally Euro (White) man oriented ad. If you are happy and gay and you know it – keep it to yourself”

Whoa there cowboy… “If you are happy and gay and you know it – keep it to yourself” that’s 180 contrast to what you said how you are supportive of the community, now you want people who are gay and happy to keep it to themselves. That’s not going to help anything,  section 377 was abolished – people who are comfortable should be out. It gives people who aren’t ready to come out, a source of courage and a reminder it’s ok to be gay and to be who you are. That’s why ever time I see “gay” used in a negative context on someone status, I ask them to please refrain from using that. Even my friend Rohan, from the Late Night Lounge, came to the realization that it’s NOT ok to say the word Fag in any way, shape or form. When we were watching the football game, every time he said fag, he would pay me two dollars.

I admit, Sam deleted the post, so I can’t quote myself but I said something along the lines that he needs to take the journalism award he won a couple of months ago out of his ass. His integrity is lacking and ignorance is showing. I should of kept my cool, but that last bit really set me off. When he switched off and started talking in Hindi, I started talking in Punjabi by saying … Tere kol koi tameez nahi haighee, Tu koi leader ni haiga, tere honkhar neh tenu paagal kita haigha. Tere kol koi dil nahi haigha, tere andkar koi insaani yat nahi haighee. Ek Jaanwar toh vi thaley haigha ah tu. (you are ignorant, you aren’t a community leader you are a heartless goat) after that exchange he ended up deleting me and blocking me. Likewise I blocked him. He once told me that even though I don’t notice, the community knows I’m out and gay. And that’s why people have a problem with me. But I’m beginning to think it’s not the community that has issues with me, it’s Sam Rao. Which is sad, I used to look up to him when I was a teenager, but after this, I don’t know the Sam Rao I used to know.