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Interview with the Phone Sex Operator



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I remember this boy in my class, it was 5th or 6th grade… his parents didn’t block the 900 sex chat line, he invited us all over and we prank called a bunch of these numbers … later that month the phone bill came, it came out to be 800 dollars!!!! His mother was pissed!!! Ironically the boy never got caught, the mother just blamed the husband… yikes!!! Have you ever thought, whose really behind that sexy voice? What do they go through… how much money do they rank in… everything you always wanted to know about phone sex operators, but were afraid to ask… Lipsticks and Politics brings us this interesting feature!!!

From Badmash: Goodbye Naughty Nights




Dear Sexy Jalebis,

As I drink this glass of wine… I’m thinking what do I say to you all? I just wanted to thank you for supporting the Temptress and myself since October, you all have showered us with your love and we’ve shared some crazy times. The idea of naughty nights wasn’t about “turning” people on, but more importantly educating our community. I wouldn’t call it “ignorance” but lack of education some people in our community have regarding sex. Regardless of the advice we’ve shared the important thing we advocated was safe sex. My favorite part of the show was bringing you all good music, I have a passion to share tunes… if I can give advice to any other host on 1170am it would be don’t belittle your audience or deprive them of good music. Get out of the Bollywood square and educate yourself on the different genres in our Desi community. The audience and your listeners deserve it.

One thing you have to realize 1170am is produced by individuals, we aren’t getting paid but go out to find sponsors to cover the cost. With the Temptress blessing, I decided it was time to end “Naughty Nights” we could of continued, but I would rather end this on a positive note – not a dried up one.

It’s going to be hard to say goodbye to all of you, but remember we all got a little “badmash” in us and you will always be my sexy jalebis – not dosto 😉



Free “My Name is Khan” tickets



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Badmash gave away 6 “My Name is Khan” Congrats to our winners Ravi, Gurjit and Rahwa! Take a friend or your valentine out! Enjoy the show! Over the next month Badmash from Naughty Nights will be giving away “My Name is Khan” tickets starring Shah Rukh Khan & Kajol. It was filmed in the Bay Area and some of you were lucky to be extras in the film.

Only Bay Area listeners are eligible to win and the theater will in or around the San Jose Area. Tune in every wednesday from 1am to 5am on 1170am or urbandesiradio.co.uk

Good luck!!!

Naughty Nights 0204: Masturbation Time!



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We all do it…We all love it… We shouldn’t be ashamed of it. Temptress and Badmash breaks down the Masturbation myths and gives tips for males, females and couples to enhance their masturbation experience!

Naughty Nights 0128 – Ex Fling to Friend?



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How to turn an ex fling into a friend? Is that possible? Badmash goes over some dos and don’ts… plus tons of wicked tunes!

Naughty Nights: Mutual Masturbation Tips



  1. Why mutual masturbation is a good idea
    Because most of us still have some embarrassment about masturbation lets list some benefits of exploring mutual masturbation:

    • Mutual masturbation is a great way to deal with differing sex drives; you don’t both have to be in the mood at the same time.
    • Mutual masturbation helps you learn what your partner likes, and teach your partner what works for you.
    • Masturbation is another side of you: sharing talk about masturbation and/or masturbating in your partner’s presence can be a powerful way of sharing a new level of intimacy
  2. Get comfortable with your own masturbation.
    The first step to sharing masturbation with a partner is getting comfortable in your own masturbatory-skin (that’s kind of a gross image, but I think you know what I mean). This may mean educating yourself about masturbation myths, or exploring masturbation more on your own first. If you haven’t thought much about how you masturbate start to give it some thought, notice any patterns or familiar fantasy you use. Ultimately you should be able to show, if not talk with your partner about what feels good, so give your self time to figure it out first.
  3. Wait until the time is right.
    Don’t pressure yourself (or accept pressure from a partner) to explore mutual masturbation. While mutual masturbation can be a great was to enhance your sex life, its also very intimate and exposing, and you should only do it when the time is right. If you’re unsure about it, think about what smaller steps you can take to share masturbation with a partner.
  4. Talk about masturbation with your partner.
    Before you dive right in, it’s a good idea to talk about masturbation with your partner. Even though most people continue to masturbate while in relationships, many couples hide their masturbation in relationships . The conversation doesn’t need to be serious or heavy, and it could even start as more of a curiosity, sharing stories about when you first masturbated, or how you learned to masturbate. The point is to get masturbation on the table as a topic as a way of gauging both your and your partners comfort with the subject.
  5. Honor the privacy of masturbation.
    The first time you masturbate with someone else in the room it may feel weird. Most of us have a way we like to masturbate, and for most of us this includes feeling like we’re alone and have some level of privacy. One way to get over the hump that first time is to keep your eyes closed (or if you don’t want to focus on that, use a blindfold or scarf to cover your eyes). With your eyes closed, as you start to masturbate it can be easier to slip into your comfort zone. For most people this is the easiest way to masturbate in front of a partner the first time.
  6. Take turns.
    One of the best things about masturbating in front of your partner is the lessons learned about what turns you on. Each of you should get an opportunity to simply watch the other masturbate without any distractions. The first time you share masturbation, if it feels awkward, you might agree in advance to take turns, one of you starting and masturbating until you’re done, and then the other goes. While simultaneous mutual masturbation can also be fun, letting yourself be the focus of attention can also be both arousing and educational.
  7. Mutual masturbation sex positions.
    Once you’re comfortable with mutual masturbation in both theory and practice its time to mix it up and play with different positions and situations. Doing this can enhance the sexual response you get from masturbation, it can also spark different fantasy scenarios, and lead to more learning for your partner. Try mutual masturbation on different pieces of furniture (if you’re always in bed, try it in a chair, in the shower, on the floor) and experiment with different sex positions.
  8. Masturbating together.
    Mutual masturbation can also mean masturbating together. From the perspective of spiritual sexuality, the sexual energy built up with masturbation can be shared even if you aren’t physically touching each other. Some people make a game of it, and try to masturbate in synch so they finish together. If you don’t have a lot of time you might compete to see who finishes first. One of the great things about doing this is sharing your feelings as you both lie there satisfied by your own hands, but sharing an intimate moment together.
  9. Masturbating each other.
    While most of us might think that a hands-off-each-other approach is what defines masturbation, dictionary definitions of mutual masturbation usually include touching each other and there’s no reason not to blur that line. This might include you focusing on another part of your partner’s body while they masturbate, or you might be right in the center of the action. You might use parts of each others bodies in your own masturbation technique. Or maybe you come in right at the end, to help out with the big finish.
  10. Adding sex toys.
    Sex toys can add a lot to both solo and mutual masturbation. For starters, toys remind us that sex is play, and lots of times it’s just meant to be silly fun. Sex toys also provide a kind of strong, consistent stimulation that we can’t create on our own. Introducing sex toys during mutual masturbation can also be a great way to bring sex toys into your partner sex, and it makes room for you showing your partner first how you like to play with sex toys before they take over.
  11. Playing with eye contact and talking.
    At the beginning, if you are uncomfortable with masturbating in front of your partner, making a lot of eye contact or talking might seem too intense. But if you find you both enjoy mutual masturbation and get more comfortable with it, adding eye contact and talking can take it to a different level. Gazing into each others eyes during any kind of sex play can be intensely intimate and hot. Sharing sexual fantasies or describing what you’d like to do to or with your partner while they masturbate can be another form of sexual fantasy role play .

Naughty Nights: Tips on Female masturbation



  1. Get yourself in the mood for masturbation.
    Relax as much as you can.Take a warm bath or have a glass of wine. Ensure your privacy: turn off the phone, lock the door, send the kids to a neighbor’s. Find a comfy position. Most women start out lying on their backs, legs bent and spread apart, with feet on the ground. Remove most or all of your clothing.
  2. Fantasize for masturbation.
    Recall an exciting past sexual encounter or elaborate on a favorite sexual fantasy. If you need a boost, look at a sexy magazine, read an erotic story, or watch an adult video. Allow your mind to explore any images–anything goes as long as it heightens your excitement.
  3. Explore all parts of your body.
    Run your hands along parts of your body, lingering along areas that are more responsive to touch than others. Look at your genitals in a mirror (especially if you’re unfamiliar with them) and caress the different parts to see what feels especially good. Find and touch your inner and outer labia, your clitoris, your vagina and your perineum.
  4. Touch yourself.
    Using one or two fingers, rhythmically stroke the different parts of your vulva, paying particular attention to your clitoris and labia. Experiment with different types of pressure, speed and motion. Try placing a finger on either side of the clitoris and stroking up and down, or placing two fingers on the clitoral hood and rubbing in a circular motion.
  5. Experiment.
    Try different types of touch: stroke, tickle, knead, pinch, or lightly pull your genitals. Try using one or several fingers, the palm of your hand, even your knuckles.
  6. Build up excitement.
    Learn to hold onto sexual excitement by building up and then reducing or temporarily stopping the stimulation. Pay attention to how your body is responding. It will tell you the particular stroke that feels best and when to pick up or slow down the tempo.
  7. Breathe and rock.
    Breathe deeply rather than hold your breath. This helps release the sexual energy, rather than fight it. Rock your pelvis as you would during intercourse. Rhythmically clench and release your PC muscle (using a dildo for vaginal penetration can help).
  8. Getting over the top.
    If your hand gets tired, give yourself a rest, switch hands, or try a vibrator. If you’re on the brink of orgasm, but can’t quite get over the hump, try altering you’re breathing, or focusing on a really hot fantasy. Give yourself extra stimulation: caress your nipples, or try also thrusting your other fingers or a dildo in and out of your vagina.
  9. Ride the Wave.
    As you begin to orgasm, continue the stimulation through the orgasm. Lighten up on the stimulation during the first extremely sensitive moments but keep it going to enjoy those little pleasurable aftershocks. Your first orgasm may feel like a blip or a blast, but the more you practice, the more variety you will experience.
  10. Practice makes for perfect masturbation.
    Don’t worry if you don’t come on your first try, keep practicing, or try some of the variations below.
  1. Vibrators take some of the manual labor out of masturbation by providing direct, intense physical stimulation to the clitoris.
  2. Water helps many women learn to masturbate. Lie back with legs spread in a bath with a shower hose and direct the stream of water at your clitoris. Vary the pressure, the pulsation, and the temperature. Alternate methods: slide your butt over the drain so your legs are up in the air and your genitals are up under the tub faucet (rather awkward but do-able), or use Jacuzzi jets.
  3. Rub against something–a pillow, the corner of some furniture, a dildo.
  4. Dildos can be a pleasurable accompaniment to clitoral masturbation, as they offer the fullness of penetration and can also stimulate the G-Spot.

Naughty Nights: Tips on Male Masturbation



  1. Make time for more than a quickie.
    Most guys first learn to masturbate in secret and furtive ways. They do it quickly and need to figure out what to do with the evidence afterward. This can create a powerful pattern of masturbating quickly, without paying attention to where your sexual arousal can take you. To start exploring something different, make sure you have some extended time and privacy for yourself, where you aren’t trying to finish quick before someone interrupts.
  2. Turn off the porn (just for a while) and tune into your body.
    Not everyone likes porn, but a lot of guys do, and while porn can be great, it also takes you out of your body a bit with the fantasy. This can distract you from what’s actually happening in your body. You don’t need to throw the porn away, but for a few times, masturbate without porn, and objectify yourself for a change!
  3. Do a…dry…run through.
    Bad pun aside, it’s a good idea to try the above suggestions, and then just masturbate as you normally would. As you do this pay attention:

    • Changes in your breathing: Does it become shallow and quick, slower and deeper?
    • Changes in your body: is there tension in some places, and relaxation in others? Is this the same every time you masturbate?
    • How does it feel just before you have an orgasm?
    • How does it feel as you orgasm, and immediately post-orgasm?
  4. Time to switch it up.
    Men learn early in their lives the most effective way to get themselves off. And most never waver from the utilitarian approach to self love. But sex is less like a well oiled machine, and more like a chaotic food fair, where there is an endless selection of ways to satisfy your appetites. So it’s time to throw a wrench in the works and shake up your routine. Try any combination of the following suggestions:
  5. Does your left hand know what your right hand is doing?
    Do you always use the same one hand to masturbate? Most guys do. If you’re among them, start with the simple tip of switching hands. It can feel strange at first, the rhythm might be off, it’s almost like sex with someone new for the first time. Enjoy the newness, and see if a new hand can teach an old hand some tricks.
  6. Experiment with positions.
    If you aren’t an experimental type, it’s time to start. If you’re used to masturbating lying down on your back, try sitting up. If you normally sit in a chair, try standing, or kneeling. As with all these changes, this might feel ridiculous at first, and you’ll probably go back to old faithful, but see what masturbation feels like in different positions, and notice if it brings with it any new sensations.
  7. Get your hips moving.
    The way your body moves when you masturbate is probably very different from the way it moves when you’re having sex with someone else. Many men don’t move at all when they masturbate. Try to move your hips when you masturbate, simulating the thrusting of intercourse. Notice how moving your hips in different ways can bring you closer to, and at times take you farther away from, the point of orgasm.
  8. Use different hand strokes.
    Most men learn early on that a vigorous stroke does the trick. This intense up and down stimulation usually ends in a good orgasm. But there are dozens of other strokes that each bring with them different sensations, and different orgasms. Roll your penis in between your hands, moving your hands up and down your shaft. Try using long twisting strokes instead of just up and down. Experiment with different movements, pressures, and speeds.
  9. Explore your shaft.
    While most of the nerve endings on the penis are at the head, and specifically the frenulum, many men will have spots on their shaft that are unusually sensitive. Try putting one hand at the base of your penis and press it towards your body while experimenting with different hand strokes along the shaft of your penis. Treat this like a treasure hunt, and try to feel the difference between one side and the other, between stimulation near the base and up near the tip.
  10. Reach around, yourself.
    For many men the balls (testicles) are a very sensitive area that responds well to feelings of touch and pressure. Take your forefinger and thumb and make them in a circle at the top of your scrotum. Gently tug on your scrotum as your masturbating. This is both a way to prevent you from ejaculating and a way to extend sexual feelings in your body. Experiment with other kinds of touch including tickling, scratching, and rubbing.
  11. Check out the neighborhood.
    While the penis and scrotum tend to be the epicenter of masturbatory attention, if you’re looking to open things up a bit, be sure to take a tour of some other nearby areas. The perineum, the area between the scrotum and anus, is very sensitive to pressure and massage, and rubbing it provides external prostate stimulation. Speaking of which, don’t be afraid to explore the anus, both externally and by using a finger for penetration.
  12. Bring it all together.
    Not everything you try is going to do it for you, but the idea behind the above tips is to try lots of different things, and then incorporate whatever you like into the ways you regularly masturbate. Maybe it’s a different stroke, or position, or breathing technique. Obviously there is no one, correct way to masturbate, and even if you’ve got something that works for you, consider the fact that there could be more out there if you experiment with it.
  1. Another myth about male masturbation is that you shouldn’t use anything other than you hand. While your hand might be doing the trick, adding some accessories can make the stimulation even more intense, and inspire more creativity with yourself, and with partners.
  2. Get a good quality personal lubricant . If it’s only for masturbation you can use something that’s oil based without worrying about condom compatibility. Oil based products are better because they won’t dry up.
  3. Add a sex toy into the mix. It might be a vibrator, a dildo, or a cock ring (if you’ve never tried one I recommend trying one on your own before you use it with a partner). Sex toys can add a completely new kind of stimulation, and accentuate the manual stimulation your doing.

Naughty Nights: Masturbation Myths



Before you heard something about masturbation, think twice! chances are it could be a myth… its perfectly normal and natural to masturbate

Masturbation Is For the Young

In fact, masturbation is a life long sexual activity. Surveys regularly show that anywhere from 70 to 95% of adult men and women masturbate. And while this may slow down as we age, many of us continue masturbating into our golden years. One survey of 800 adults over 60 found that that 46% of them masturbated, another found that 20% of seniors masturbated once a week or more. Masturbation isn’t just for the young, nor is it an “immature” form of sexual behavior.

Masturbation Isn’t “Real Sex”

Masturbation is real sex. When you masturbate you can get really aroused, which can result in very real orgasms. In North America, we put values on different sexual behaviors, but this has no basis in science. From a health perspective, masturbation is as “real” a sexual behavior as intercourse, oral sex, or kissing. And research shows that people in relationships masturbate, which contradicts the myth that masturbation is only for loners.

Masturbation Is Bad For Your Health

This myth originated with an anti-masturbation tract that was written in 1712 as a way to sell a bogus “tonic” that was supposed to stop the disease of “self-pollution”. Through the years there have been many colorful attempts to pathologize masturbation. They say it will make you go blind, it will give you acne, and it will grow hair on your palms. All claims that have been refuted by science. Today virtually all physicians and scholars agree that masturbation is harmless.

Men Have to Masturbate, Women Don’t

While most statistics show that men do masturbate more than women, there is no evidence to suggest this is due to some biological “need” on the part of men to masturbate. What is true is that social attitudes toward female masturbation are much more negative, and this likely impacts both women’s early masturbation and their willingness to report masturbating in a survey. There is no research to suggest that the desire to masturbate is tied to biological sex or even gender.

People In Relationships Don’t Masturbate

This common myth often drives people in relationships to masturbate in private hiding it from their partners. Survey research shows that people of all ages masturbate when they are in relationships. Kinsey’s survey found that almost 40% of men and 30% of women in relationships masturbated. A study of Playboy readers found that 72% of married men masturbated, and a study of Redbook readers found that 68% of married women masturbated.

Too Much Masturbation Is Bad For You

With very rare exceptions, frequent masturbation is not harmful. If an individual is compulsively masturbating or is unable to engage in any sexual behavior other than masturbation (and would like to), it is possible that there may be reason to consult a mental health professional. But masturbating, whether it is once a month, or three times a day, if it is part of a balanced sexual and social life, poses no specific risks.

Only Certain Kinds of People Masturbate

Survey research debunks this myth that only certain people masturbate. Whether you are 19 or 99, religious and conservative or secular and liberal, whether you are a parent, grandparent, uncle or aunt, whether you get around on your own two legs or use a wheelchair, scooter, crutches, or roller-skates to get around, almost everyone has masturbated at some point in their lives, and most of us continue to do so.

Naughty Nights: Valentines Day coming up…



From Badmash…

Morning my sexy jalebis

As I mention last night, I believe every day is a valentines day, whether you are single or not, you always have someone to love, even its not in a sexual way… here’s the list I read last night … just to refresh your memory. Have fun!!!

  1. Day Off.
    Devote the entire day to each other. Take the day off from work and spend it doing things together that you normally don’t have the time to do.
  2. Honeymoon Again.
  3. Take a second honeymoon… even if it’s in your hometown and only for a night!  Book the honeymoon suite at a nice hotel and lavish each other in luxury.
  4. Week Long Celebration.
    Who says that Valentine’s day has to last for just one day? Break the rules and celebrate for an entire week! Do something special together each day.
  5. Be Kids Again.
    Get several boxes of kids valentine’s cards and write a different love note on each one. You can use love quotes, love poems, or just words from your own heart. Give her valentine’s each day, each hour, or all at once. Fill them with candy or just words of love.
  6. Travel.
  7. Take her on a special getaway… find a poster for the location and give it to her as an over sized valentine’s card with a written love note and the tickets taped to the back!
  8. Bed & Breakfast.
    Book a room at a local bed & breakfast for an incredibly romantic night. Find the perfect place with this online B&B directory.
  9. Romantic Movies.
    Head to your video store and rent several romantic movies. Bake your own pizza together (how about a heart shaped one!) and spend all day (or night) watching movie after movie.
  10. Gifts of Love.
    Tired of your lover nagging for that one gift? Keep your ears open to what they really want… and make it a point to get it for them on valentines day. If it’s small enough, hide it around the house and leave cheeky post-it clues.
  11. Music to Your Ears.
    Compile all of your love songs onto your love song CD mix and have romantic music playing throughout the day/night in the background.
  12. Game On.
    Romantic game that is… Spend the night having fun in the bedroom with a sexy, romantic game.