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Accent on the Music

17Mar

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By: Reena Mumbai reenadotme@gmail.com

This is going to be the dumbest thing I’ve said in a while, but who cares. It’s like this… You know how when you’re listening to a new song and you’re totally digging it and all, and then you start torrenting the hell out of the band, and within three days you’ve committed their entire discography to memory? Right, and you’re all, “Man, this band is the greatest!” and then you find out they’re a French band, and then you’re all, “Wait, but they sing in ‘American’!”

I told you this would be dumb.

I guess, if I think about it, a lot of famous artists are not American and yet, when they sing, they can suppress their accents and sing in an American voice. Take Phoenix, for example. When I first discovered them, I had no clue they were from France. The same goes for the Radio Dept. They sing with American accents but they’re from Sweden. This doesn’t seem as strange to me, and maybe it’s because they’re Caucasian, because I’ll tell you, if I hear an Indian band sing, and they sound “American”, I’m floored down to hell.

Then I wonder, do singers from other countries practice singing in American accents? Or is it the natural inclination of the musically gifted? It’s the nature versus nurture quandry in the singer’s world. Do vocal cords know nothing of nationality? Or do people believe there is more cacophony in singing English language songs in American accents? If so, why? If you grow up in India, for example, surrounded by Indian accents, and you converse in that accent, and argue in it, and whisper disgusting nothings in each others’ ears in it, why then don’t you sing in that accent? And how come people from around the world are so capable of feigning American accents but Americans, on the other hand, swear they can do “the best British accent”, but come off sounding like a more egregious version of Renee Zellweger, a la Bridget Jones’ Diary?

It’s a puzzler, and I have no answers, but I do have some music from around the world, that I thought was good/interesting/not-good-nor-interesting-but-still-worthy-of-sharing. Is anyone else as curious as I am about what music means in other countries? The last three groups are actually pretty solid. The first two, definitely not my cup of tea.

India- This is a group called IAFWAY, which stands for “I Am Fake, What Are You”, and they are based out of New Delhi, (which, incidentally, is where my family is from.) This isn’t my genre of music. I’s very heavy on the metal and I would never be able to sit through an entire song of theirs, but I am just AMAZED that they can sound so NOT “Outsourced”. Unsaturated

China- This band calls itself Re-TROS. Again, I don’t like this music; it’s too rock-influenced, but still interesting to see what is coming out of other countries. Up Next: Bella Lugosi’s Back

Iceland- The band is called Rokkurro and the lead vocalist is Hildur Kristín Stefánsdóttir’s. I can’t even begin to imagine how to pronounce the first and last name. Her voice reminds of springtime, whatever that means. I really love this song. I Googled this group and stumbled upon their Tumblr and they use the same template for their page that I do! That pretty much solidified that they were a band worth following. Sólin Mun Skína

Singapore- I kind of love the sound of this group. They’re called Elektone and the synth and vocals remind me of the peg leg jeans I wore in 6th grade. Falling Into You

Ireland- Reverie is actually 21 year old Louise Connell whose album “Melodies” is a big, happy bowl of acoustic pop and ukelele strumming. Get to Know Me

So, there you are. Around the world in five international groups. Maybe you like some of them, maybe not. What do I care, really.

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RIP Nate Dog: 21 Questions and Anthems in Death

16Mar

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By: Reena Mumbai reenadotme@gmail.com

It’s kind of crazy that a lot of breaking news that I learn of is via Twitter. Tonight, for example, I learned that Nate Dogg died. Here’s the crazy in that- I thought it was a hoax because as soon as I saw the tweet I, of course, Googled it, and there were NO hits to corroborate. As it turns out, Twitter beat Google to the punch. Sadly, the world has lost another rapper from my formative intro-to-rap years. Twitter, in the meantime, is blowing up with “R.I.P” shouts and lyrics from famous Nate Dogg songs. When I hear Nate Dogg I immediately think of two songs, probably not unlike many others who grew up on his music. Obviously, one is “Regulate” by Warren G, but the other is probably one that is a less common conduit to Nate because it came later in his career, and that is “21 Questions” by 50 Cent. It has one of the cheesiest, smile-inducing lines in hip hop. The line that then became nauseatingly overused- “I love you like a fat kid love cake.” Granted, that wasn’t actually his line.

Do people ever say to you, “This song always reminds me of you”? I get that from friends and it’s usually either a 90’s song or some random hip-hop song. I was thinking, I wonder what song Nate Dogg would want people playing in his memory. Like, would he scoff if he knew I played “21 Questions” because it was actually a 50 Cent song that he was featured on? Actually, most of the popular songs Nate Dogg is remembered for were collabos with other artists. Then I thought, well, when I die, what song do I want my death to immediately trigger in the minds of my friends?

Hold, please. Time for a 3:40 am cookie…

As I was saying, what song would I want people playing? Yes, I realize this is a big assumption that, somehow, my death will spark a global “kumbaya”, but you never know, so it’s best to have a plan in place. The problem is there are so many great songs that put me in an out-of-body experience. I’m being totally serious- music does that to me, often. Some people use qualudes, some use videogames, I use music. Parenthetically speaking, did you know that quaaludes were first invented in India? It is one of those obscure, but important, facts to spew out to someone you want to impress, like, I dunno, a drugged-out hippie child of the Woodstock era, who maybe manages a famous band.

The problem with picking one song to be your anthem in death is that you want to make sure it’s a “timeless” song. This means most current popular music is out. Ke$ha’s ( I can’t believe I actually dollar-signed her) “Blow” may sound great now, but 30 years from now it’s just going to be eyebrow-raising when this song is trending on Twitter as #RIP Reena.Blow on girl. So, I’m trying very hard to scour my top 50 songs list and come up with the perfect anthem in death for myself. I have none as of yet. But I’d better find one fast. It’s best to be prepared.

Post script: I find Ke$ha distasteful and a big ear soar. However, I will go on the record and say I am totally feeling her new song “Blow” which, when listened to at cochlea-cracking decibels, really just makes you want to dance. Also, this video has unicorns (dammit, are unicorns trendy now??) and Dawson of “Dawson’s Creek” fame. What the?

And for the record, the cookie(s) I ate at 3:40 am were sugarless and homemade, though obviously not by me.

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Check Out “Blow” from Ajaxxx *NEW VIDEO*

16Mar

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Ajaxxx and myself had some friendly banter at the beginning of the year when he said some “sites” (hinting to UDR?) doesn’t give Desi artists in the US enough props. This space is not just for UK Desi artists, but for all artists from all over, Ajaxxx like many others Urban Desi artists here in the States, is a contender to show the US is just as talented as the UK. The UDR platform is all yours Ajaxxx bring it on!! Check out his new video “Blow” (which was featured on one of our sister sites SimplyBhangra.com) Ajaxxx is making waves and doing his thing!

Navin Kundra charms Nayna in an EXCLUSIVE interview!

16Mar

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Sweet, romantic and totally addictive and I’m not just talking about his music. I caught up with the ever so charming and down to Earth Navin Kundra to discuss his new song ‘Aaja’, his love for his fans, all his favourite things and so much more.

By: @NaynaED

Nayna: It’s good to see you again, what have you been up to lately?

Navin: Just a lot of promotion around the new single, it’s been doing really well so a lot of touring and being back in the studio, creating new music.

N: Your twitter bio, it says ‘you think you know, but you have no idea’, so what do we have no idea about?

NK: (laughs) Well you know with Twitter, you don’t have much space so I couldn’t put my 3,4 pages of achievements down… no I’m joking. I guess people get an image of you from the music that you put out and my music is so varied so people really don’t quite get to know the real me until they sit down and have a chat with me which is what we’re doing now.

N: Listening to the new single ‘Aaja’, it starts off like a qawali and it just kicks in and the vocals are amazing. What was the inspiration behind it?

NK: The idea to be honest was just to create something new, something very different. It’s a bit of an ambitious song to take on and I don’t think a lot of people would have expected a young British Asian artist to come out with a song like that. Like you say, it’s got mixed elements of qawali with soul and then Indian classical music, it was quite a big task. A lot of people have heard that song and they think there’s about 3 different singers on it, but I’m doing all the vocals myself. And that’s sort of what I mean by ‘you think you know…’ because if you didn’t know my face or me as a person you’d hear that and think Gosh, there’s no way that’s a 26 year old guy from the UK.

N: So we last met at the GMex exhibition in Manchester recently, how did you prepare yourself for that performance? Do you still get nervous before you’re about to go on stage?

NK: Always! I’m actually a nervous wreck before I go onstage, It’s terrible. Normally backstage, there’s loads of other people around, at the event there were artists, dancers, models and they’re all so cool and chilled out like they’re comfortable with everything. I’ve been doing this for a while now but it always still feels like it’s my first and last performance which is why I kind of get really nervous and I give it my all on stage and I guess that helps because it prepares you mentally.

N: Speaking of dancing, I noticed you strutting some dance moves on stage, is that something you take lessons for or..?

NK: (laughs) No no, as you can tell, if anyone has seen me dancing they’ll know I take no lessons for that but it’s just a bit of fun, it’s something I enjoy doing. When I’m performing and I see the crowd dancing and singing along, it’s just great.

N: I want to know a bit about the man behind the music. What do you like to do when you get home at the end of a hard day, what’s your way of winding down?

NK: It depends, there’s times I just love going out for a run, other times I like to listen to music, watch TV, watch movies, I’m a big fan of comedy and perhaps my favourite winding down past time is just spending time with my fans, logging on to ‘Facebook’ and ‘Twitter’ and replying to messages and having conversations on my wall.

N: Do you think that’s a strange concept as an artist, to be able to connect with the fans so personally, almost one to one.

NK: It is strange, going back over more than 5 years ago, it was totally unheard of. With the invention of all these social networking sites, it’s been a way of connecting very personally with fans and it’s worked so great for me because I’m an unsigned artist, still independent but I’m putting music out and I’ve got a fan base because of that. We have a good time, we have a great relationship, I talk to them, they talk to me. It’s good to know you’ve got that support there because they’re the ones that make the songs number 1.

N: Is it a bit embarrassing when you see twitter accounts that are named after you? You do have a few now.

NK: No it’s not embarrassing at all, I love that. All the more the better, it’s a really beautiful thing actually.

N: What do you miss most about being away from home?

NK: I miss my own bed because I have this theory, you can be in the most luxurious hotel or the best penthouse suite but when you get into the bed, there’s nothing quite like your own, it’s like you’re conditioned to it. I miss being with my family as well and mum’s cooking definitely!

N: Speaking of cooking, did you do anything on pancake day?

NK: Not really, I was busy working away so I missed out on all the pancakes but I hope everyone else had a good time.

N: If I had known I would have brought you one.

NK: You should have done, I’m really gutted now.

N: Maybe next year?

NK: Yeh definitely.

N: What was your first reaction when you found out ‘Aaja’ got to no.1? Were you jumping up and down screaming or were you playing it cool like ‘it’s aaiite, I’m happy’?

NK: (laughs) I was jumping up and down screaming when I first heard it played on radio, that’s how crazy it is because it’s always really exciting. I think a lot of people take for granted that it’s something you’ve spent time creating, it’s your baby, and just to know everyone else is hearing it is a massive deal. So when it went to no.1 I was just completely blown away. I knew it was a different song with a very different sound so I never knew how it would do, I just believed in the song and I’m so glad the audience believed in it as well.

N: What I’m going to do now is like a quick fire round. I want to ask you quick short questions and need a quick response. Are you ready?

NK: (laughs) They might not be so quick because I’m terrible at these things.

N: (laughs) Hopefully there’s not a lot of thinking required, just say what comes into your head. Ready?

NK: I’m ready (looking nervous).

N: Favourite film?

NK: Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge.

N: Aw mine too. Favourite all time song?

NK: So many but at the moment I have to say ‘Tuj Mein Rab Diktha Hai’.

N: An artist that inspires you.

NK: Stevie Wonder.

N: Favourite book?

NK: Roots by Alex Haley.

N: Favourite car?

NK: Aston Martin

N: (whispers) Old man’s car.

NK: Er excuse me that’s not an old man’s car, that’s a very slick, sophisticated, sleek car.

N: Don’t get me started on this. One place you’d like to visit.

NK: By the way, what’s your favourite car?

N: Lamborghini Gallardo?

NK: (short silence then mimicks me)

N: (laughs) Moving on! Right so one place you’d like to visit.

NK: You’re such a show off yaar. (laughs) Sorry are you asking me another question? One place I’d like to visit… I would like to go to Mauritius.

N: What song do you wish you had written and released?

NK: Gosh there’s loads, but I wish I had written and released ‘Thriller’ by Michael Jackson.

N: An artist you would like to collaborate with.

NK: A R Rahman.

N: Lastly your favourite quote, maybe something inspirational.

NK: I have a quote that was passed on to me by my mentor Pandit Dinesh ji and that is ‘look after your art and your art will look after you.

N: That’s beautiful. Ok I’m going to say one word now and you’re going to say the first thing that comes into your head, (Navin looks over at my notes) …stop reading my questions!

NK: (laughs)

N: Ring

NK: Finger

N: Black

NK: White

N: Fast

NK: Slow (laughs)

N: Scary

NK: You

N: (laughs) Success!

NK: Happiness.

N: It was an absolute pleasure to chat to you today Navin, thank you so much.

NK: Thank YOU very much and thank you to all the fans who are supporting my music.

N: Any last messages for your fans?

NK: Just like I said, massive massive thank you! I hope to see you all very soon, come down to one of my shows because this music is to experience and we’ll have a good time.

Already at number 1, make sure you download the single Aaja by Navin Kundra and listen to it, it has such a catchy beat and beautiful lyrics.

You can find Navin on Twitter and on Facebook

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Swapna-Sucheta Suicide Case

15Mar

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Sappho one of the great Greek lyricist and poets

From Sappho (Support Group for Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Women) this was reported in the Telegraph (Eastern Indian English newspaper) the two women were in a lesbian relationship, sadly they both committed, because they felt this was the only way they could be together. Sappho went to their town to learn more about the two young women and their families.

Swapna-Sucheta Suicide Case
Nandigram, Sonachura, 20th February.2011
A Report by the Fact Finding Team of Sappho for Equality

The incident was reported in the Telegraph, a leading English daily of
eastern India on 22nd February 2011, along with smaller insertions on
the same day in Times of India, Kolkata, Ganashakti (Bengali daily
from Kolkata), Mumbai Mirror and Ahmedabad Mirror.

Two young girls from a village named Sonachura, under Nandigram police
station, in East Midnapur District, had committed suicide together by
consuming pesticide. They were neighbours, distant cousins; the elder
used to give tuition to the younger and were in a lesbian
relationship. The younger was married off some months ago after the
villagers became suspicious about their relationship.

Apart from the above mentioned basic facts media reports were
contradictory about the names of the girls, their ages, and other
details related to this incident. One of the news papers with
expressed political allegiance went to the extent of calling it a
murder (it should be remembered that Nandigram and Sonachura have been
in the news for State Government’s land acquisition policy and counter
movement, and is still in a situation of political unrest with state
elections knocking at the door).

We at Sappho for Equality decided that given the contradictory nature
of the media reports, and the political positioning of Nandigram with
a general pre-poll unrest prevailing in the state, we should carry out
a fact finding process on our own. It also is considered as a step
towards our advocacy and lobbying campaign with the state machinery,
the police to be precise.

As step one we formed an internal fact finding team of experienced
members. The team first met Ms. Damayanti Sen IPS, Joint Commissioner
of Police, Crime Branch, Kolkata, for back up police support for the
fact finding mission and also for involving her in the advocacy and
lobbying campaign. We got extremely positive response from her for the
immediate venture and the long term project. She gave us contacts of
very senior police personnel of the West Bengal Police, the Additional
director of Police, Law and Order, who in turn connected us with the
East Midnapore Police Superintendent, OC of Nandigram Police Station
and Sub Inspector of Tekhali, Sonachura Police Outpost. The last
referred person had actually handled this case and we got maximum
information from him through our fact finding process on 26th
February.

On 26th February our five-member team, ready with audio-visual
documenting    equipments, went to Sonachura for finding out real
facts and scopes for further intervention regarding the couple suicide
case of Swapna-Sucheta. We met and interviewed Swapna’s parents, one
of her coaching class students who used to study with Sucheta also,
Sucheta’s mother, one of their male neighbours, few neighbourhood
women, Sucheta’s husband Bikash Mondal, Panchayet Pradhan Kalikrishna
Pradhan (chief functionary of the rural local governance system) and
Sub Inspector Animesh Chakraborty of Tekhali Police Outpost and also
had a talk with Second Officer Sambhunath Das of Nandigram Police
Station. Copy of a note book with Swapna’s description of their
relationship and the final act along with the copy of case diary were
collected as testimony.

The incident and its background as found by the fact finding committee
is – Swapna, 21/22 has always been a quite and integrated person. She
is one of the rare girls who had passed Madhyamik (school leaving
examination) and instead of marriage opted for a career as a teacher.
Her parents already burdened with the debts accumulated after her two
elder sisters’ marriage decided not to press too hard. She had opened
a coaching centre at her home and was giving tuition to the
neighbourhood students and earning a modest amount of money. Sucheta,
17/18, a neighbourhood girl, a second/third cousin used to come to her
coaching centre and they had developed very deep and intimate
relationship. The villagers started suspecting about the nature of
their relationship to be homosexual and about year ago a huge ruckus
was created by some of the village elders and both the families were
threatened. Sucheta’s parents decided to marry their daughter off and
they
got hold of a young neighbourhood boy, Bikash, 20/21, who works as a
masonry help in Orissa, was once in a relationship with Sucheta before
she got involved with Swapna. Sucheta refused to marry but was forced
into it, a very common practice everywhere in India, and was married
off about six months ago. But the relationship continued and Bikash,
tried to commit suicide, unsuccessfully, after two months of his
marriage to Sucheta. On 20th February 2011, Sucheta had come to visit
her natal family and went missing along with Swapna. The families and
villagers looked for them the whole night and in the morning they were
found dead at a spot about 2 km from their home tied together by a
gamchha (handloom towel) embracing each other. Police report says that
they had committed suicide by consuming pesticide. A note book was
found at Swapna’s home where she has clearly described the nature of
their relationship and her decision of committing suicide as they
thought that to be the only way of staying together because the
society would not let be with each other. Her last request was to be
cremated together, which was not observed because none of the families
including Sucheta’s marital family were willing to accept the dead
bodies back from police morgue to give them an honourable funeral.

From interactions with both of the families, Sucheta’s husband, and
neighbourhood persons, the single striking fact, clear to all of us,
was that no one is actually sad for those two deceased human beings.
Swapna’s parents are bewildered because she was a major bread winner
for her family, Sucheta’s mother (we could not meet her father) was
too cautious to talk. Bikash was busy clearing his name, trying to
prove that all was well between them as a married couple. Never did he
gave any information regarding his failed suicide attempt.

The neighbourhood guy agreed that it is bad that the girls have
committed suicide, it is not right to marry someone off forcibly. When
asked that what would be his/their plan of action if something like
this happens again, he said they would involve women next time
something like this happens and try to make the girls understand the
immorality and impossibility of such a situation rather than forcing
them into marriage. The Panchayet Pradhan also was unhappy about the
deaths and subsequent turn of events when the families refused to
cremate the deadbodies. He said that he was willing to organize funds
needed for their last rites but the families were not ready to do so,
though they cited poverty as their reason, he felt that immorality of
the act had actually forced the families to disown the girls. He also
said that he believes homosexuality is wrong because some group
involved in HIV/AIDS awareness campaign in that area had declared so.
Police
personnel in the area, the sub-inspector of Tekhali police outpost,
in particular, seemed to be quite sensitive about the issue. Police
was willing to help the families in obtaining the bodies from morgue
but as the Pradhan, the S I also commented upon the families’
reluctance in arranging funeral rites due to the dead as non
acceptance of their lesbian relationship.

At this juncture, Sappho for Equality has already designed a targeted
intervention programme for eradicating violence against LBT persons
with long and short term work plans keeping this incident and other
similar incidents in focus.

Short term work plans

awareness camp in the Nandigram/Sonachura area after Assembly election
leafleting and campaigning with university and college students
keeping this incident at the centre
collaborating with Maitree (a forum of women’s rights groups and
individual activists in West Bengal) to present this case in the 8th
march programme (It had already been taken place)
Creating a violence dossier with similar reported incidents as ready reckoner.
Raising the issue of violence against LBT persons in every possible
fora and sharing this report with all interested organizations and
individuals working on similar or allied issues.

Long term work plan

advocacy and lobbying with the State Administrative System
police sensitization programme

Sappho for Equality is an Activist Platform Working for the Rights of
Sexually Marginalized (Les/Bi/Trans) Women in Kolkata

Bohemia launches India Tour 2011

14Mar

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After a successful tour to raise funds for Pakistan flood victims in 2011, Bohemia will be touring India in 2011! If you are interested to book Bohemia or want more info about his tours in Punjab, Delhi or Mumbai call +91 9911581590 or email info@ysevents.in. Bohemia was ranked number 3 on Urban Desi Radio top 10 artists of the decade.

Trousseau Time

14Mar

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By @Raj Thandhi

Although I have no plans to re-marry in the future lately I’ve found myself quite intrigued with Indian bridal wear and trousseau options. Maybe it’s all the “shaadi” related films like Band Baja Barat and Tanu weds Manu, or my upcoming 10th anniversary (and secret desire for a vow renewal – does anyone know if the gurudwara allows that?) One thing is for sure; I’ve got bridal brain.

I got married in 2001, when designer Indian wear was still a distant dream for a girl in Vancouver. It was starting to come through in bridal magazines and specialty boutiques, but it wasn’t quite mainstream enough for me to find it. And like many young brides I didn’t even have a well defined style at the time, so I just picked what I thought was the prettiest. Don’t get me wrong, I loved my wedding lehnga, but a girl can still dream right? So here I’ve compiled my favorite Indian bridal wear designers in 2011:

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Tarun Tahiliani

Tarun Tahiliani is the master of classic Indian looks. He is most famous for his sari designs (he created the infamous pink and blue bandini sari for Elizabeth Hurley), but I’m obsessed with his formal lehngas.

Tahiliani’s bridal collecion tends to have a more traditional look and is saturated with rich tones like red, burgundy, gold, and fuschia. I love how he goes over the top in a very classy way with beads, sequins, and semi-precious stones. A great example of his all out bridal wear is the sari he designed for Shilpa Shetty’s wedding . If I had to choose a bridal look today, Tahiliani would be my first choice.

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Masaba Gupta

The youngest designer on my list, Masaba is also the most refreshing. I love how she creates Indian looks with a modern twist. My favorite part of her aesthetic is the colour pallets she selects; canary yellows, deep aubergine and aqua, bottle green and red, they remind me of classic, old-school India.

I would totally rock a lehnga by Gupta at any pre-wedding event, but my current favorite is her colour blocked and sheer sari combinations. The are just the right amount of playful and pretty with a little bit of quirky thrown in.

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Manish Malhotra

B-towns best known (and maybe safest) designer is still one of my favs. Although I find some of his designs too basic, sometimes simply understated is perfect. Well known as in-house designer for the Kapoor sisters, Malhotra has mastered the simple salwar kameez, and owns the anarkali market.

My only issue with Manisha Malhotra designs is the velvet; sometimes he just goes too far with it (As seen here on Ash) That being said I think an outfit by Malhotra would be perfect for a pre-wedding dinner, or simple engagement ceremony. His looks are easily identifiable, Bollywood worthy, and very appropriate for impressing the future mother-in-law.

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Sabyasachi Mukherji

The first Indian designer ever invited to show at Milan Fashion week, Sabyasachi is a design innovator. I love that his collections are cohesive but they never look cookie-cutter. Each piece has it’s own personality and flavor. I absolutely adore his sari’s (and can’t believe I don’t own one)! Sabyasachi sari’s are defined by unusual fabrics and textures, detailing, vibrant colours, and a sort of patchwork look.

Personally, I feel like these are the best new “bahu” saris on the market. A signature Sabya with a few bangles and some statement earrings from Amrita Singh and you can’t go wrong.

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Pria Kataria Puri

I’m not a huge fan of Pria’s Indian wear, but her resort collection is amazing! If I were going to honeymoon on a beach somewhere I would be all over her kaftan’s, tunics, and Georgette dresses. Honestly, before I found Puri’s designs I hadn’t ever taken an interest in resort wear, but suddenly I’m craving a lakeside retreat.

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Gone With The Wind – The Facebook De-Friend

3Mar

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Ever been friend dumped? I have. Well, sort of. It wasn’t so much an abrupt termination, as it was a slow, putrid demise of a maleficent mound of mulch. Being “dumped” by this particular friend was not exactly devastating because, in truth this person was, hmmm, how should I say? Toxic. And really, he/she/it was more of a fair weather type of friend. The end was right in front of us, but I had too much indifference respect for the past friendship to pound that final nail in the coffin. Now, although my friend dump was some time ago, the issue recently resurfaced as I was comparing notes with my friend D, who’s been newly friend-dumped. He, unfortunately, is not taking the friend dump in stride. He’s pissed and confused. D’s case is different. He didn’t see this coming. He thought things were “fine”. He was Facebook de-friended. I feel for him. It’s never easy getting dumped.

Anyhow, the point is, we started to compare notes. Where did the friendships go sour? Was there a pinpoint-able spot to lay blame upon? Was one person clearly in the wrong? Was proper friend-dumping etiquette followed? Is there proper friend-dumping etiquette? The more we discussed the phenomenon the more we realized that, compared to being dumped by a lover, friend-dumping is generally FAR more passive. While both can clearly occur in passive-aggressive manners, romantic dumping is more on the active end of the spectrum, and friend-dumping on the passive end. The “talk” happens far more consistently with the breakup of a romance. There is rarely an, “It’s not you, it’s me,” moment in a friend-dump.

Even less common, is the passive-aggressive behavior of the dumper who acts like such an ass that the intended dumpee becomes the actual dumper. It seems most friend-dumps come in a slower, passive manner, proceeding to passive-agressive behavior. Phone calls are returned with less verve. Plans are cancelled at the last minute, with increasing frequency. Text message responses such as “cool”, or “ok” become the norm. And then comes the green mile. You notice, first, that you have limited access to the dumper’s Facebook profile. It’s ok. Maybe they just limited their profile to everyone, you tell yourself. Then comes the inability to see any current pictures or status updates. And then, the de-friend.

Personally, I find the Facebook de-friend to be a tacky, worm-like way of weaseling out of a friendship you no longer wish to be a part of, (I’m referring to once meaningful friendships, and not a casual acquaintance.) If there was no head-to-head, no major blowout, then be a fricken adult, grow a set, and just talk to your intended dumpee. Maybe they did something that legitimately crossed a line. Or maybe you are just bored of them. Whatever it is, what the hell does it say about you that you can’t directly offer an explanation as to why you’ve been m.i.a. all of a sudden? It is the romantic equivalent of Berger’s post-it note. If the best you can do is slowly faze them off your Facebook page, you are a Class A douche, and deserve to be branded.

In D’s case it is clear, to me at least, that D was a perceived threat to his dumper. So, actually, D should be laughing at this pathetic dimwit, and I reckon, after our little pow wow, he soon will be. Frankly, if a once “real” friend de-friended me on Facebook as a way to declare the time of death, it would only reinforce the caliber of lame loser I was “losing”.

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Did TV9 gay sting operation piss you off?

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It sure pissed us off, this isn’t journalism, these so-called journalist need to know that you can’t pull a stunt like this. As we reported, a young man tried to take his life, after his parents saw him on this segment. What TV9 did was put more fuel into the homophobic fire, that keeps people in the closet. Thanks to our friends at Trikone (Manoj) we got a DIRECT email to the legal aid, I would like to encourage our readers to write an email to her expresses your concerns and outrage over this segment.

padmavathi.appala@tv9.net and you can also submit a message to TV9 founder Ravi Dutta right here

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Raghav sets Urban Desi Radio on FIRE!

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Raghav always makes a great interview, the times we’ve met in the UK and California, he always cracks me up. He’s one of those artists, I can safely say, there’s NO ego about him – if there is – he HIDES really well. His new single, Fire, dropped on iTunes. He got a chance to work with producer/songwriter Jim Beanz, whose signed to Timbaland’s camp. We will hear more tracks Jim helped Raghav with on Raghav’s new album The Phoenix, which will be coming out in a couple of months. I can’t wait to showcase that on The Junction.

Petz: Do you have a storyline for Fire’s music video?

Raghav: It’s currently coming out on the radio in Canada, obviously we are going to launch it everywhere because we want to share it with the core fan base. I haven’t even thought about making a video yet – the video maybe a few months away, the record is going to be out in a few months.

Petz: When I say the name Jim Beanz, what comes to your mind?

Raghav: He’s just TALENTED! He’s one of the best producers; I’ve ever worked with. I can see why Nelly and everybody worked with him. He’s a great pop writer, I think of him as a friend. He’s extremely kind and he’s very professional. We just locked in and wrote some songs, each song is different from the other song.

Petz: I blogged about the artwork cover for Fire – it’s playful and colorful, are those paint splatters?

Raghav: You have to speak to the wonderful girl who does all that! They do look like paint splatters don’t they? Someone described it as an acid trip yesterday. (Laughs)

Petz: That was me. I described it as an acid trip.

Raghav: Oh! That was you? I thought that was kind of funny. The song had a lot of energy, I wanted the cover to have a lot of energy as well.

Petz: I feel sometimes, you don’t get the credit you deserve; will Fire catapult you into the mainstream spotlight? Is that even a priority?

Raghav: I’m very blessed; don’t ever feel sorry for me. In 2004, I was selling electronics in Calgary. By the end of the year, I had three top 10s. And four top 10s the year after that. I’ve been very lucky. It would be nice to have a global record happen once again, but the business has changed a lot, I’m keenly aware of that fact, it’s not the way it used to be. I would like to think Fire has that potential, but at the same time, if I can just share it with my fan base and have a career, then I’ll feel lucky.

Petz: What’s the meaning behind the name Phoenix?

Raghav: The Phoenix is a mythological character that can reinvent itself. It always takes its strengths and changes into something different. I like people to look at my catalog of material and think it’s diverse. I’ve never felt better – musically, then I do right now. I feel now is a good time to be conscious of my old skin and step into a new one.

Petz: Will there be any artists featured on the album?

Raghav: The tracks I’ve done with Jim, there’s none so far, but we are definitely talking to some people, hoping to make it work. But on Fire, for now, it’s just me; you are just going to have to put up with my voice.

Petz: I have no complaints. I adore your voice. I remember when you came to the AsianFX studio and surprised Sam Sam and me; we were busy plugging in your Humrahee track. And you told us your mother had a creative hand in helping you with that track. Has she helped you at all with this new album?

Raghav: Mom kind of gets involved with the Hindi songs, there’s one Hindi song on the album, that’s out on iTunes called Kya Se Kya Ho Gaya, and Mom did co-write that song with me. I’m very glad I get to work creatively with her. It’s very cool; I encourage people to check that out.